School Bullying Council

I wonder if anyone at NBC Entertainment watches any of the shows on NBC News or vice-versa. If so, Sunday night might be an epiphanous moment for network television, a cognitive flash of self-awareness that could jolt American culture in the direction of human decency.

Well, yes, I do understand I’m talking about the same network that aired “Fear Factor,” “The Weakest Link” and “My Mother The Car.” But it could happen. It could.

OK, OK, it probably won’t. But dreaming is cheap. And the contrast between Sunday’s episode of “Dateline NBC” about bullies and the reality-competition show that follows it is so dramatic that even a segment of the population as intellectually vacuous and emotionally retarded as network programmers ought to get it.

“America’s Next Great Restaurant” might have been a mildly interesting entry in the reality field. Four chefs and restaurateurs judge the proposals and performance of 21 contestants seeking funding to open a small fast-food chain. Some of the ideas, admittedly, range from loony to disturbing: A combination gun store and cafe? A place featuring “lactation smoothies”? A Hooters for the opposite sex called Peckers?

Others, however, are intriguing. I’d love to visit a joint featuring tacos with fillings like jalapeno crabcake or an all-pot pie place with flavors like Philly cheese steak. And listening to the judges chat about potential marketing or cooking problems with the contestants is pretty interesting. Would a restaurant with nothing but grilled-cheese sandwiches on the menu be able to turn out the product on a fast-food timetable? Have enough Americans sworn off meat to make a vegetarian fast-food chain worth a try?

But “America’s Next Great Restaurant” is quickly undone by the same mean-spiritedness that makes “Survivor,” “American Idol” and the rest of this genre such an unpleasant viewing experience. Winning depends at least as much (and probably much more) on impressing the producers with television skills as it does on winning over the judges with culinary expertise or business savvy. So taunting and back-biting among the contestants is a dreary constant.

And the judges, whatever their restaurant acumen, are out-and-out louts, smirking and ridiculing their way through the shows like the cross-bred bastards of Gordon Ramsay and Donald Trump. One is Miami’s Lorena Garcia, who maintains South Florida’s near-perfect record of contributing nothing to national television, but she’s far from the worst. That would surely be the Brit chef Curtis Stone, whose surly abuse of contestants is all the more untoward for his utter ignorance of American cuisine. How did a guy who’s never heard of banana cream pie manage to get a job as a judge on a show like this?

The answer is supplied in the hour before “America’s Next Great Restaurant” airs. “Bullies love an audience,” declares one of the experts interviewed by “Dateline NBC’s” Kate Snow for a disquieting but perhaps hopeful episode titled “My Kid Would Never Bully.”

Though it includes some insightful conversations with such people as Rosalind Wiseman (whose book “Queen Bees and Wannabes” was the basis for the film “Mean Girls”), this report is much more than a compendium of talking heads. Its most compelling moments make use of hidden cameras to record the reactions of teenagers when they observe other kids being bullied. Unknown to them, the bullies and their victims are unpaid actors. Another thing they don’t know: Their own mothers are watching on video monitors in another room.

In some ways, the results are heartening. Almost all the unsuspecting kids react against the bullies when they start mocking a skinny, unathletic boy as a “queerbag” or trashing an overweight girl for wearing horizontal stripes. Some try to distract the bullies; others are openly confrontational. It quickly becomes apparent that if just one kid will speak out against the bullies, others will back him up.

But there are also moments of desperation so disturbing that they’re almost impossible to watch. One girl slips quietly away to a corner of the room, where a hidden microphone picks up her tearful whisper: “It’s so hard.” It turns out she’s been the victim of bullies at her own school. After last year’s furor over the suicide of a gay college freshman tormented by his dormmates, thinking of bullying as a subset of homophobia has become common. But as “Dateline” makes clear, bullying is neither new nor necessarily related to sexual orientation: Kids for years have been victimized for walking, talking, dressing or doing almost anything else differently than the rest of the crowd.

Still, I wonder if a hidden-camera show done at my high school or junior high 40 years ago would have revealed as many kids willing to stick up for the weak or the out of step. My favorite was a girl named Lilly, who argues fiercely with the bullies and finally unleashes an F-bomb. “Nice language, daughter,” gasps her blushing but proud mother in the room down the hall.

If only we could slip Lilly onto “America’s Next Great Restaurant.”

DATELINE NBC: MY KID WOULD NEVER BULLY

7-8 p.m. EST Sunday

AMERICA’S NEXT GREAT RESTAURANT

8-9 p.m. EST Sunday

NBC

Glenn Garvin: ggarvin@MiamiHerald.com

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With schools across the nation puzzled about how to address issues of bullying, one North Carolina elementary school is getting students to confront the topic by teaching a rap song.

WBTV reports music teacher Monica Martin and guidance counselor Cindy Kiser came up with a peppy rap that tells students “We don’t do bullying at our school.”

All of West Elementary School’s students recently lined the building’s hallways to perform the song together.

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SANTA CRUZ – Professors, gang investigators and a Harbor High teacher will present ways to keep kids safe at an upcoming symposium aimed at preventing bullying and gang violence.

The March 11 symposium at the Boardwalk’s Cocoanut Grove is titled “Victim and Perpetrator: Clinical Portraits of Bullies and the Bullied, and Gang-Affiliated Youth.”

Speakers include Ronald G. Slaby, a psychologist and researcher at Harvard Medical School, and Cheryl L. Maxson, a professor at the Department of Criminology at UC Irvine.

Slaby will give a keynote address on bullying and include discussion of the Eyes on Bullies prevention program. Maxson will give a keynote address on gangs and include how research can help create better responses.

Local panelists include sheriff’s Sgt. Roy Morales, who has worked as a gang investigator for about 10 years. He said partnering with schools makes a lot of sense in combatting gangs.

“The earlier we can get to kids, and to their parents, the more positive impact we can make,” Morales said. “It’s refreshing that people in the northern part of the county are recognizing they also have gang issues. I’m happy people are listening. Prevention and education are crucial.”

Morales said he expects people will ask him what they always ask him: what is the solution?

He said he believes that if people establish strong partnerships and work together to combat gang violence, statewide, “we can make a real dent.”

Ron Indra teaches social studies at Harbor High and directs the Safe Schools Project of the Community Foundation.

He has seen a lot of bullies and targets in three years as project director, he said. Children are abused because of their weight, ethnicity, sexual orientation and other issues, he said,

“We always think Santa Cruz is so loving and accepting and diverse, but that is not always the case,” Indra said.

His next appointment is to help an 8-year-old South County boy who was perceived as being gay and is being harassed by classmates, he said. The child was doing well in school, but now wants to drop out, he said.

Other calls come from teachers who see bullying in school hallways, administrators, gay students and others, he said. Indra frequently preaches to adults about the power of bystanders, and how bullies must be confronted or all those who see someone walk by without helping might feel unprotected and unsafe.

He believes more awareness is needed, and a more systematic, preventative approach.

“It’s about awareness and education and giving people strategies to deal with it,” he said. “It’s about educating the bully too.”

The symposium was founded in 1997 by the Nadherny/Calciano family as a way to deal with the tragic loss of their son to suicide. Sponsored by Dominican Hospital, Dominican Hospital Foundation and the Jon E. Nadherny Memorial Fund, it focuses on issues affecting the mental health of young people.

The event has grown dramatically and is filling up quickly this year, said Sam Leask, director of the hospital foundation.

“It’s apparently hitting a chord,” he said.

He expects educators, therapists and others and said some participants can earn continuing education units.

Other presenters include Santa Cruz police officer Arnold Vasquez, Watsonville police Master Officer Henry Robles and Mike Walker, co-founder of the Central Coast Gang Investigators Association.

IF YOU GO

13th annual Jon E. Nadherny/Calciano Memorial Youth Symposium

WHEN: 9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. March 11

WHERE: Cocoanut Grove, 400 Beach St., Santa Cruz

COST: Registration is $65, or $50 if done by Tuesday

INFORMATION: www.calcianoyouthsymposium.org; e-mail info@calcianoyouthsymposium.org, or call 462-7569.

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